More on words that come out of our mouths….

We can create positive change by choosing not to use these
words and phrases as we come across them in our vocabulary.

There are many troubling phrases in our language that we use
without considering their full meaning simply because they have been accepted
into common knowledge. Even as our ideals progress, our language maintains some
phrases from our past that no longer serve us, for example: Boys don’t cry;
good child; boys will be boys; problem child; illegitimate child; and many
more. While these phrases may be used without harmful intent, they are
inherently negative. Children can be especially sensitive to such phrases,
which may stay with them their whole lives, adversely affecting their
self-image and wounding their self-esteem. We can create positive change by
choosing not to use these words and phrases as we come across them in our

It is challenging to examine our habits in terms of the
words we use to express ourselves, but it is also exciting. Language is an area
where we can exercise our free will, creating positive change in the world
around us by simply choosing carefully the words we use. It may seem like a
small thing, but our words have a rippling effect, like a stone thrown in a
pond. People naturally pick up on the way other people speak, consciously or
unconsciously changing the way they speak in response. We don’t need to
actively try to influence people; it happens without our even thinking about
it. All we have to do is choose to be more conscious ourselves, putting to rest
words and phrases that are outmoded, insensitive, or harmful. We can also
exercise our creativity by creating new phrases that carry positive and loving
energy to replace the old ones.

You may already have some ideas about phrases you’d like to
transition out of your language, and now that you’re thinking about it you may
come across many more. As you consciously decide not to use these phrases, you
may feel lighter and more joyful, knowing that you have chosen to drop baggage
that was handed down to you from a less conscious time. As you do so, you
elevate the language for future generations who would no doubt thank you if
they could.

Now, I wonder about some symbols I use:

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