Whenever we do something in life with an expectation of how we’d like it to turn out, we risk experiencing disappointment. I know that sounds like a downer… but bear with me a bit, ok? When things don’t go the way we had envisioned, we may feel a range of emotions from slightly let down to depressed or even angry. We might direct our feelings inward toward ourselves or outward towards other people or the universe in general…(and – boy – do I know this one)….Whether we feel disappointed by ourselves, a friend, or life in general, disappointment is always a tough feeling to experience. Still, it is a natural part of lie, and there are many ways of dealing with it when we find ourselves in its presence.
As with any feeling, disappointment has come to us for a reason and we don’t need to fear acknowledging it or feeling it. The more we are able to accept how we are feeling and process it, the sooner we will move into new emotional territory. As we sit down to allow ourselves to feel our disappointment, we might want to write about the experience of being disappointed – the situation that preceded it, what we were hoping would happen and what did happen. The gift of disappointment is its ability to bring us into alignment with our reality so that we don’t get stuck for too long in the realm of how things might have been. I know that sounds strange… but sometimes we get so set on what we would like to have happen that when it doesn’t we go wacky with disappointment. Sometimes it takes time for our own reality to catch up with what we want – our intents, etc.
As we consider other disappointments in our life and how we have moved past them, we may even see that in some cases what happened was actually better in the long run that what we had wanted to happen. Disappointment often leaves us feeling deflated with its message that things don’t always turn out the way we want. The beauty of disappointment, though, is that it provides us a bridge to its other side where the acceptance of reality, wisdom and the energy to begin again can be found.
But, I will tell you this… I won’t be disappointed with no coffee… cuz…here it is… smell it?????