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Sometimes we need to “die” before we can really live

Sometimes a part of us must die before another part can come to life.  Even though this is a natural and necessary part of our growth, it is often painful or, if we don’t realize what is happening, confusing and disorienting.  In fact, confusion and disorientation are often the messengers that tell us a shift is taking place within us.  These shifts happen throughout the lives of all human, as we move from infancy to childhood to adolescence and beyond.  With each transition from one phase to another, we find ourselves saying good-bye to an old friend, the identity that we formed in order to move through that particular phase of our life.

Sometimes we form these identities in relationships or job and when we shift those areas of our life, we become unsettle.  Usually, if we take the time to look into the changing surface of things, we will find that a shift is taking place within us.  For example, we may go through one whole chapter of our lives creating a protective shell around ourselves because we need it in order to heal from some early trauma.  One day, though, we may find ourselves feeling confined and restless, wanting to move outside the shelter we needed for so long; the new part of ourselves cannot be “born” within the confines of the shell our old self needed to survive.

We may feel a strange mixture of exhilaration and sadness as we say good-bye to a part of ourselves that is dying and make way for a while new identity to emerge in its place.  We may find inspiration in working with the image of an animal who molts or sheds in order to make way for new skin, fur or feathers to emerge.  For example, keeping a duck feather or some other symbol of transformation, can remind us that death and rebirth are simply nature’s way of evolving.  We can surrender to this process, letting go of our past self with great love and gratitude and welcoming the new with an open mind and heart, ready for our next phase of life.

I have been saying good-bye to the old Diane this past year… but probably have not been spending enough time saying hello to the new Diane….  But I have to tell you… the new Diane still likes her coffee in the morning….

2 thoughts on “Sometimes we need to “die” before we can really live”

  1. Or we may jump for joy at the loss and death of a part of us….that we don’t particularly like! 😀

    A great reminder Diane….to be aware that parts of us are dying, need to die and that only good things can come from it! ‘S’all about evolution! 😀

  2. So true! It can be an exciting time. My favorite symbol, the phoenix, says it well for me. Love that rising from the ashes!

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