What if you are not in conflict – but the person just bugs the heck out of you… maybe for no reason… but just “bugs” you …
- You can only change yourself. The best way to address the situation is to change how you perceive it and how you REACT to it.
- Draw your boundaries. Be clear on what you will tolerate and what you will not tolerate and then STICK with it.
- Be upfront about where you stand. People aren’t mind readers and sometimes they may not be aware that they are infringing on your space.
- Be firm when needed. If the person does not stick within the boundaries, then enforce them.
- Ignore them. If you just ignore them, they don’t have a choice but to seek out someone else.
- Don’t take it personally. Most of the time, these people behave the same way around others.
- Observe how others handle them. The next time you are with this person, get someone else into the conversation too. Observe how the other party handles it.
- Show kindness. Often times, they act the way they do because they are looking for an empathetic ear. Listen, but still have your boundaries…
- Help them. Beneath the façade, perhaps, is really a cry for help. Looking at it this way, may change the whole dynamics….
Well, no one is bugging me… so I am off to spend a bit of alone time with my favorite coffee cup full of hot steaming coffee….