Life Skills Specific

So, I’ve taken care of conflict… now what about people who just “bug” me???

What if you are not in conflict – but the person just bugs the heck out of you… maybe for no reason… but just “bugs” you …

  • You can only change yourself.  The best way to address the situation is to change how you perceive it and how you REACT to it.
  • Draw your boundaries.  Be clear on what you will tolerate and what you will not tolerate and then STICK with it.
  • Be upfront about where you stand.  People aren’t mind readers and sometimes they may not be aware that they are infringing on your space.
  • Be firm when needed. If the person does not stick within the boundaries, then enforce them.
  • Ignore them.  If you just ignore them, they don’t have a choice but to seek out someone else.
  • Don’t take it personally.  Most of the time, these people behave the same way around others.
  • Observe how others handle them.  The next time you are with this person, get someone else into the conversation too.  Observe how the other party handles it.
  • Show kindness.  Often times, they act the way they do because they are looking for an empathetic ear.  Listen, but still have your boundaries…
  • Help them.  Beneath the façade, perhaps, is really a cry for help. Looking at it this way, may change the whole dynamics….

Well, no one is bugging me… so I am off to spend a bit of alone time with my favorite coffee cup full of hot steaming coffee….

1 thought on “So, I’ve taken care of conflict… now what about people who just “bug” me???”

  1. Excellent advice Diane! Sometimes they are crying out for empathy or just need someone to understand them! I have come into this more than once and something else I realize is that the thing about them that bugs me is actually the same thing about me that bugs me! ;D Many lessons to learn, skills to hone with those who bug us!

    Great read as always!

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