Life Skills

Ah Patience…. Does it even exist?????

This is really a quality that I missed out on… I was at the wrong train station when it was handed out…  If you need to have an example of a person with 0 patience… then I qualify.  So with that in mind… and since I really write these blogs for me… I really need to address “patience”… Blah… but I will, anyway…

Patience is the state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without acting on annoyance/anger in a negative way; or exhibiting calmness when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties.  It is also used to refer to the character trait of being steadfast. 

Patience may be one of the most challenging traits to obtain.  Patience often does not fit in with many people’s personalities.  It is, however a wonderful trait to have and will allow a person to relax and cope with stress.  Those who delay in patience are often stressed and pressured individuals (or certainly cause it to ourselves).  The effects of impatience may have drastic effects on the personality and lifestyle of a person. It can cause you to become irritable, stressed, dissatisfied, upset and more.  If you lose patience easily, you may be considered to have a form of anger management problem…(although I don’t think I have gone THAT far).  A lack of patience can also cause you to easily lose control of your emotions.  In the extreme cases, impatience can cause a person to become pessimistic about life and become sour towards everything in life — scarifying friendships and family quickly because of the lack of patience…. 

Impatience can really drive a person to his/her limits, exhausting a person mentally and physically.  This fast changing world we live in really demands us to have tolerance for relationships, jobs, relationships, etc.  So… having patience really makes life easier… so… I am working on it.

  1. When you feel yourself becoming impatient with a situation or becoming impatient with someone … count to 10… or 20…  Take some deep breaths.  This will allow your body to calm down a little bit.  The more calm your body is the easier it will be to be patient.
  2. Imagine what the other person involved in the situation is feeling.  For example, if you are in a long line at the post office, realize that other customers are probably feeling the same way.  Think about how hard the post officer (is that even a word?) is working.  This can help you get perspective and gain more patience…  now, don’t over-analyze this one… go with it…
  3. Realize that no matter what you do, things will to be able to happen any faster.  For example, if you are stuck in horrible traffic, try to realize that being impatient is not going to get you to your destination sooner.  Try to enjoy the scenery, play music, or talk to the person with you… no one with you… then make a two way conversation with yourself… this is sometimes a hoot!
  4. Talk to people you consider to be very patient (I don’t imagine I will be getting any calls on this one…) Ask them what helps them when they become impatient.  You might learn quite a lot from them.

One moment at a time.  When you start to feel impatient, take time to notice what is going on inside of your head.  Are you in a hurry, feeling crabby, angry at something else?  Make the conscious choice at that time to step back, breathe and realize that every day above ground is a good day and whatever is going on isn’t really going to matter down the road.  Keep practicing and it gets easier each time to make that conscious choice.

It helps to take a look at what impatience is… to find out how to be patient.  Impatience is hasty, angry, and too quick at making a decision before having all the accurate pictures of the situations… It is self-centered, faulty reasoning.  It is just plain self-centered.  So to be patient, look for other’s needs, letting them have their space…

I keep saying… that although I am important… I am not, however, the center of the universe.  “I” can wait. 

I am certainly a “work in progress”…. I did, however, not get mad at the coffeemaker for being slow…. That is good, right??????  See you tomorrow.

1 thought on “Ah Patience…. Does it even exist?????”

  1. yeh Patience is a learned trait !!!!!!!!!! I am more patient now than i ever been.

    Thank you !!!

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