The reality of it all is that we live in a “fast-food”, “on-demand”, “direct response”, “drive up coffee”, “drive up banking”, “paying bills online”, “direct deposit” hurry up world. We all seem to be programmed in our society today of expecting things to happen on the spot. For the most part – it gets easier and easier because of:
- Worldwide internet
- High speed connections – even remember “dial-up”?
- Computers… desk, laptop, notebook – do you even remember the first ones that were room sized?
- Cordless phones – instead of the ones that actually have cords?
- Cell phones – do you even remember the first cell phones… big, clunky and not very reliable?
- Microwaves – remember cooking in the oven?
- Fast food – making meals by hand?
- Email – snail mail?
Not that any of the above are bad or good… and remember, these are just a few of the things helping us “speed” up,” be more efficient”, “get more accomplished”. We won’t even go into all the advances that have been made the past century – even in the past 50 years… None are bad or good… but have put us all in a mindset of “it has to be done NOW”. So, just take a moment or two… is mindset really positive? Is it really good for each of us? I certainly do not mean the advances… I mean just our MINDSET… our URGENCY…
A blogger, Chris Brogan, wrote about The Assault on Anywhen .. he lost all his connections to the web for 20 hours… No email. No Twitter. No blog comments, etc. Although he was ok with being “disconnected”, the emails he received for not answering emails, comments, etc. were “urgent”, “manic”… he went on to say that although it was ok to nudge him, he began to think about the fact that it hadn’t even been 24 hours. He goes on to say that we are ruining “anywhen”. Anywhen is the problem the internet solved. When you write an email at 6am – it will be 8am central time, 9am eastern time, etc. You can read my email anyWHEN, AnyWHERE is what the telephones solved… get it? When we have everyone hold onto urgency and time locks, we are ruining Anywhen.
We get this all the time… if we don’t reply or return a phone call immediately… folks begin to feel abandoned, betrayed, that we don’t care. (Now I don’t want you to get all in a huff… I am talking generally… not about you.) Our position is certainly not that important in your life, not urgent… we are guilty as everyone… when we need something; we push for it, not really taking into consideration the other side of the equation. So instead of just checking something off our list, we come off as insistent and insensitive to other people’s situations. Also, quite the opposite is true of this… some folks won’t ever contact us because we are too busy…. It is all about balance… we all need to learn balance. It is also about recognizing that the other party might have something else going on, didn’t get the message, or it wasn’t really appropriate to immediately answer.
Are you addicted to adrenaline? Living on the edge of constant crisis? Worse yet – do you prefer life that way? Cell phones, e-mail and the Internet are making “urgency addicts” out of all of us. Is the “On Demand” World what all of us really want ALL the time? I will attempt to discuss this further tomorrow, this is getting too long….. See you then… thanks for tuning in… now let’s have a hot cup of coffee…